{"id":29527,"date":"2021-11-29T00:09:53","date_gmt":"2021-11-29T00:09:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.thepicpedia.com\/blog\/adobe\/a-space-where-everyone-can-belong\/"},"modified":"2021-11-29T00:09:54","modified_gmt":"2021-11-29T00:09:54","slug":"a-space-where-everyone-can-belong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thepicpedia.com\/blog\/adobe\/a-space-where-everyone-can-belong\/","title":{"rendered":"A space where everyone can belong"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Bilin Su (center) on her wedding day.<\/p>\n

In recognition of Asian\/Pacific Islander Heritage Month in May, Adobe is sharing perspectives from the Asian\/Pacific Islander (API) community through the theme: Rising Together, to address how we can support, equip, and empower each other.<\/p>\n

As far back as she can remember, Bilin Su aspired to live in the United States. America seemed like a place where everyone could be themselves and all cultures could be embraced, and Bilin yearned to find a place where she could express her creativity and authentic self.<\/p>\n

With the support of her parents, she learned English and moved to the US where she has been pursuing the American Dream: She studied and earned 3 undergraduate degrees, married her husband, and found a fulfilling job at Adobe. However, in recent years that dream has been challenged. Oppression and violence against the API community has risen, leaving Bilin again feeling like she\u2019s not fully welcome in the country she has dreamed of.<\/p>\n

In the story she shared during the internal kickoff event for Asian\/Pacific Islander Heritage Month, Bilin discussed immigrating to the United States, how counseling has helped her navigate her experiences, and why she believes there\u2019s hope for the future.<\/p>\n

We talked to Bilin to learn more about her story and what each person can do to help support those struggling with recent events to feel as though they belong.<\/p>\n

Why did you aspire to move to the US?<\/h3>\n

There was a part of me when I was growing up that always longed for diversity. I love China and its culture, and I\u2019m beyond proud to share the Chinese heritage. At the same time, I aspired to see the world, to be somewhere with various amazing cultures, where diversity is embraced; that really appealed to me.<\/p>\n

When I was young, I\u2019d watch a series called Family Album USA to help me learn English, which I\u2019ve always thought is a really pretty language. It featured a family in the New York area, and it painted a picture of New York, the Statue of Liberty, USA \u2014 it seemed like such a cool place to be.<\/p>\n

Have your experiences changed how you feel about the US since you first came here?<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s one thing to have a dream, it\u2019s been another ride to see it through. I\u2019ve been lucky to have had the opportunity to make my life in America, while also seeing my hard work earn me a successful future. I\u2019ve been able to find a community here, not only of immigrants striving to improve their lives, but also many Americans who have welcomed me openly. I fell in love here and married my husband, I\u2019ve found friends who have supported me more than I knew how to, and I\u2019ve put so much into finding and thriving in a career which prioritizes diversity and inclusion. This has been a dream come true and I\u2019m so proud of what I\u2019ve been able to accomplish so far.<\/p>\n

In the past year or so, however, I\u2019ve struggled by seeing my dreams and safety challenged based on my heritage. I have always believed this is where I\u2019m meant to be. So it\u2019s hard to have to question your own belief, thinking that you or your community is not welcome or supported in a place you\u2019d like to call home.<\/p>\n

Why do you feel that way?<\/h3>\n

I want to build my own family here, where I can embrace not only my Chinese heritage but also my American culture. I want my parents to be able to spend time here, but I see stories of violence against people of Asian heritage, against elders especially, and I\u2019m scared. I don\u2019t want to put my parents in that situation, I don\u2019t want lose out on spending time with my parents, and for them to not be able to spend time with my future kids because of this type of fear and anxiety. I\u2019m frustrated that the contract America offers, the pursuit of happiness, is being challenged not because of my merits, but because of immutable attributes: my race, my skin color, and where I was born.<\/p>\n

How did counseling help you navigate these feelings?<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s helped me to be more patient with myself and learn to cope with stress. I\u2019ve learned how to be more productive with those feelings instead of just getting scared or angry or upset and saying, \u201cI hate this\u201d or \u201cthis is bad.\u201d Of course, venting can be healthy and helpful, but it\u2019s also important to experience those uncomfortable feelings, observe how your body and mind feel coping with these feelings, and learn from this experience. Even though many are reluctant to try therapy, I think others could benefit from this skill that we might not have had modeled for us growing up.<\/p>\n

Why do you think there is reluctance to get counseling?<\/h3>\n

A lot of people in my community, myself included, were taught not to pay attention to negative feelings, that they\u2019re for \u201cweak\u201d people. We\u2019re told we should focus on school or work and not these other things that just get in the way of being a champion.<\/p>\n

I think it takes courage to actually feel those emotions and embrace them. It might be overwhelming, but you can learn how to use that productively. Even if you can\u2019t \u201cfix\u201d things, you can learn to have compassion for yourself and reduce the suffering of unresolved traumas. If you can make yourself sit with a feeling, you can figure it out and build resilience so you\u2019re stronger the next time you have that same emotion.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about building the community up with that resilience. There will continue to be ups and downs as we make progress and have our voices heard. As we push forward, we need to each prioritize self-care and first check in with ourselves to make sure we can provide space for others with compassion and sensitivity. You can only control what you do, and in time how we respond to the actions of others. We can first understand that we have nothing to be ashamed of; we all have beautiful cultures and heritage.<\/p>\n

Allies can help by acknowledging our experiences and understanding that just because you haven\u2019t seen or experienced what we have, that doesn\u2019t make it any less true. We are all looking for the same thing, to feel heard, included, and validated.<\/p>\n

We have a long way to go, but if we speak up, we can make this truly a melting pot of cultures and a place where we can all feel appreciated and be ourselves.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Source : Adobe<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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